Shifting our hope of the good we expect from our relationships, however trivial or mundane, from mediocre good to supernal good will change the center of our ethics from merely preserving our own autonomy to actually creating the deep-seated good we seek.

Infidelity, often thought to be the result of a lessening of love, has not to do with how much we love another, but with the reorganization of some existing set of internal values.

Shame and guilt are not the same thing. In order to feel shame, we must feel that our actions are out of alignment with who believe our trust moral selves to be.